Experts warn: fear-mongering and manipulation are common in romantic relationships

Many couples' cohabitation is shadowed by manipulation tactics, such as constant threats of breaking up. This behavior is known as "the dread game" and originates from men's rights movement forums. Experts emphasize that this constitutes psychological abuse.

Manipulation in romantic relationships can manifest in many ways, but one of the most common is a partner's constant threats to end the relationship. This behavior is called the dread game in English and is a popular tactic in so-called red pill and manosphere forums, where men are taught how to keep their partners under their control.

What is the dread game?

The dread game functions as a psychological pressure tool: when one partner constantly threatens to leave, it creates anxiety and insecurity in the other. As a result, the victim begins doing everything possible to satisfy their partner and preserve the relationship, often at the expense of their own needs and wellbeing. According to psychologists, this pattern constitutes emotional abuse.

Misogynist online forums teach manipulation

The manosphere is a broad internet community encompassing men's rights activists, incel movements, and pick-up artist forums. In these communities, advice is shared on how to control women's behavior using psychological tactics. According to red pill philosophy, men must maintain so-called dominance and avoid emotional dependence, which in practice often means deliberately undermining a partner's sense of security.

How to recognize manipulation?

Relationship experts recommend seeking help if your partner consistently uses threats of leaving as a control tactic, isolates you from friends and family, or constantly makes you question your own worth and behavior. A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and a sense of security, not fear. If you feel your relationship is causing you chronic anxiety and insecurity, it may be a sign of psychological abuse that warrants professional help.