Podcast compares raising children and dogs: punishment doesn't work

In a new episode of Õhtuleht Radio's podcast "Vet in Your Pocket", veterinarian Tiina Toomet and family therapist Meelike Saarna discuss the surprising similarities between raising children and dogs. The conversation covers setting boundaries, the effects of punishment, and anxiety. Both specialists agree that problematic behaviour typically stems from unmet needs rather than malice.

Two professionals from different fields meet in a fresh episode of Õhtuleht Radio's podcast "Vet in Your Pocket": veterinarian Tiina Toomet and family therapist Meelike Saarna discuss surprisingly similar topics, how to raise both children and dogs so they feel safe and secure.

One of the central messages of the conversation is that punishment does not work as a parenting method in either case. "Punishment teaches nothing!", a view shared by both Meelike Saarna and Tiina Toomet. Experience in both fields shows that fear-based parenting creates anxiety and does not address the root cause of the problem.

The podcast reveals that most behavioural problems, whether with children or pets, stem from some unmet need. This could be a need for safety, attention, play, or clear boundaries. According to the specialists, malice or "looking for trouble" is rarely seen as the real cause.

Setting boundaries is a topic that comes up in both specialists' work every day. Both children and dogs need clear and consistent rules that give them a sense of security. In the absence of structure and predictable behaviour, anxiety develops, which in turn causes problematic behaviour.