Sex Advisor Agnes Kangur: A Man Is Not Responsible for His Partner's Orgasm

Certified sex advisor Agnes Kangur discusses common myths about intimate relationships in an interview, explaining who is actually responsible for a woman's orgasm and why a partner's excessive desire to please can harm a relationship. Kangur explains that each person is responsible for their own pleasure.

Certified sex coach Agnes Kangur challenges several widespread myths about sex life, both those reinforced by society and those actively promoted by the pornography industry.

One of the most common misconceptions concerns responsibility: many people believe that a man is the one who must "guarantee" a woman's orgasm. Kangur rejects this idea. "A man is not responsible for a woman's orgasm; each person must take the reins of their own pleasure into their own hands," she says bluntly.

The advisor also highlights how the pornography industry distorts people's understanding of what a fulfilling sex life should look like. The staged and often unrealistic image presented on screen can create unnecessary expectations and pressure in both men and women.

Kangur also addresses the question of whether a woman can have an orgasm as if "on order." According to her, this approach is fundamentally flawed; pleasure is not an outcome that can be guaranteed through technique or sufficient effort.

A surprising but important observation is that a partner's excessive desire to please can actually produce counterproductive results in the bedroom. An excessive focus on the other person's pleasure can create pressure and prevent both partners from being truly present.